I was just reading a story an author had written about how much he tried, how hard he worked, and how unfairly he was treated. This is not an uncommon story, but what struck me was this: everything he wrote about was external to himself and his own attitudes. Those around him weren't getting the effort he'd put in. Circumstances weren't arranging themselves the way he hoped. One person couldn't get over their obvious resistance to his suggestions.
I saw this as so much effort being thrown against a mirror. The figures in the mirror aren't going to change their actions until the person reflected there makes a change.
Remember you're seeing reflections and projections today. What could change for you?